As a former English major, I often poured over many novels and books to find and absorb the most brilliant opening sentance that can capture the reader’s attention and set the mood for the rest of the manuscript.

Who can not shudder from chills and gloom from such opening lines as,

A throng of bearded men, in sad-colored garments and gray, steeple-crowned hats, intermixed with women, some wearing hoods, and others bareheaded, was assembled in front of a wooden edifice, the door of which was heavily timbered with oak, and studded with iron spikes.

from Nathaniel Hawthorne’s  The Scarlet Letter,  or from an uneasy sense of humor and wonder when you read that, “Miss Brooke had that kind of beauty which seems to be thrown into relief by poor dress”, from George Elliot’s Middlemarch. 

The authors most likely thought till their heads burst to find the perfect opening sentence for their novels, and I am feeling something similar as I am thinking of a simple elevator speech to describe myself at cocktail parties. I mean, you’re trying to sum up your whole complex life into a few witty words!

It always starts out as, “Hello, my name  is ______… I’m a ______”. Or, “Hello, my name is _____… I help people do this and that”.

After that, your fellow conversationalist either goes, “Really??! Tell me more!” or “Um… I need to grab some water at the snack table”.  Luckily, most of the time I get the more enthusiastic response.

I am a perfectionist and I always want to present myself nicely, especially at my age and career level. But I am also a person of many talents and interests.  How to fit it all in? I am sitting here with a map of adjectives and a dictionary brainstorming. Arghhh.

Okay, don’t call me lame for categorizing my life in financial quarters, but it’s just what happens once you start working in the “real word”. lol

Anyways, I’m happy to announce that I have crossed a major event off my happy list for this year.  I retook my GMAT and I succeeded in increasing my score significantly from two years ago. Although I still feel like I will need a higher score, it’s an achievement, a small step towards the bigger picture.

The Happy List:

- Sleep earlier (10:30 PM), eat less sugar, and walk more
- Better time management
- Maintain a sharp eagle eye and sharp mind

- Try to read 1 non-school related novel/book a month ( Succeeded on those 4 hour RT BART rides)
- Run 5 K ( Ran JP Morgan Corporate Challenge)
- Finish at least ½ of the class requirements for my HR Management Certificate (Completed first part… will complete next year!)
- Research more Masters’ programs. (targeted my schools and programs)
- Prep for Master programs (more pre-reqs, GRE, retake GMAT) (Took GMAT 10/31/09)
- Get better at Photography, Photoshop/GIMP (Took Digital Photography Class)
- Research and buy the much needed flash for my DSLR, and maybe the camera grip (purchased earlier this year)
- Revamp my website BunnyHopCoffeeShop.com

My friend P sent me this very interesting radio talk show on accessing the happiness of Americans, especially women.

Are Women Becoming Unhappier?

It looks like women have been becoming less happy since the 1970’s while men’s happiness have increased. Ironicly, that was during the time when women were starting to win more opportunities socially, professionally, personally. Some hypothesis include that before the 70’s,  women did not voice their discontent. But then there’s also the social trends changing– that women have the triple bind, where women are expected to be accomplished academicly, be lovely wives, have successful careers,  and be great mothers–which causes anxiety because these achievements are hard to meet.

There was an interesting point made by one of the speakers– that the  point of the women’s movement was to change people’s thinking of women’s social status as equals, not second class citizens– not to oppress ourselves by thinking that women need to achieve to do it all to have it all.

The speakers agree that women have developed their anxiety because of all of society’s expectations of them and that women are too hard on theirselves to try to meet the expectations. Seems like the traditional role of the housewife isn’t such a bad role after all.

I personally think that it’s great women have all these choices to be whatever they want to be, but families should be aware if they want a well balanced family life with children and a happy spouse, someone needs to have that extra time to stay at home with the kids and cook (lol). I grew up in a household where my mom is lucky enough to stay at home and raise me. My father was the breadwinner. And it all worked out because my father took pride in earning the bread while my mom lovingly took care of the family through the cooking and watching over the family budget and investments.  Not only was the family healthier (because of the home cooked meals), and more finacially stable (it helps to have someone watching it diligently), I had a “normal” childhood and turned out all right. ;)

It sounds very idealistic, and yes it is. Today’s world most likely requires dual earner households, but many times, the reason is that we Americans spend too much on extracurricular items. If we cut back, we will have less debt, therefore, less need to have  to work our butts off on multiple jobs. Hence it will lead to a more balanced work-life and everyone will be happier.

So, I believe in living the simple yet happy lifestyle.  We can be accomplished women, but we can also have the choice of having a good work-life balance to eliminate the stress and increase the happiness. And I’d like to be the person cooking all the yummy foods at home to nuture the family. lol

I was delightfully surprised today when my manager held a team meeting and one of the main topics was on social media and how our century old company cannot avoid it and need to embrace it! Finally!  He even showed us one of the Erik Qualman videos in his presentation to prove his point.

This meeting was one of the most refreshing meetings I had in the two years I’ve been here at this company. Finally, some innovation!  The organizational behavioral changes after the headquarters move  seems like it’s starting to take root!

The Socialnomics Blog (TM) is also a very good read and thought provoking.

… it’s almost like deja-vu from two years ago. But I feel so much more confident this time in doing this task, because of my good network of family and friends and their support.  The fact that my work right now provides me better work life balance has helped my studying as well, and I sleep a lot more than when I took the test last time.

I paid my $250 today and picked my appointment date. 

And no, I don’t think I’ll wear a costume to the GMAT that day. lol.

Appointment Date: Saturday, Oct 31, 2009
Appointment Length: Approx. 4 hrs.

Study Study Study!

Fall… a season of wrapping up lessons learned through the year… I’ve spoken to quite a few people who are hoping 2009 will end soon so we can enjoy 2010!

And by then I will most likely be finished with all my GMAT and applications for school! There is such a long checklist of character building things to do before 2010.

My office moved to Walnut Creek 2 weeks ago and increased my commute time to 4 hours round trip. While I have been very unhappy with such a long commute, I see the benefits of having to commute so long– I have been reading a LOT and feeling a lot more like the enlightened university student I once was.

My job is ending… an end of an era that I strongly believe will lead to better things. With the California unemployment insurance I can get, it will help me financially for a little while to experiment with things I have wanted to do but have not had the chance– like take certain classes, update my web design skills, relearn piano, and do some volunteer work for my favorite organizations.

New projects are popping up that I am highly excited about, and I’m really glad my mentors are giving me a chance to show my skills and also help the organizations. Talent can only be recognized in the right audience. Otherwise you are 对牛弹琴– “playing lute to the cow“.

Because of my upcoming departure from my job, I’ve been trying to do as many team building things as I can do… most recently, I completed the JP Morgan Corporate Challenge 5K at Crissy Field with my company… It was so fun! One check mark off my Happy List for this year.

At Crissy Field San Francisco

At Crissy Field San Francisco

I’m going to check of some more things from the Happy List hopefully by the end of this month!

This is how far I have to drive to work every day now; if I take public transport, it will take over 4 hours RT every day.

Character building? Perhaps. I watch the sun rise as I commute to work every day.

How far would YOU commute to work?


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I’m waiting for Dec 31, 2009… but gotta complete the GMAT first…

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